Oh My God A Girl! by
Debbie Jacobs
“OH MY GOD A GIRL!!” Such was the cry I was met with when I arrived to
meet our group for a 5 day canoe trip down New Zealand’s Wanganui River.
“Are you sure you know what you’re doing?!” a wary fellow in his 50’s
exclaimed. I assured him that since I knew a heck of a lot more than he
did it was in his best interest to stick with me. The rest of the group,
a collection of 10 men and women from New Zealand, looked on with some
amusement and guarded concern.
This fellow had voiced what many of them
had inwardly felt when they discovered that their guides were ‘girls’.
Some had assumed that Sue, a nursing student in her mid twenties, and I,
a ‘Yank’ only a bit older, were the greeting committee. I suspect many
hoped at best we were the cooks and at worst that we were driving the
bus. Discovering that they were heading out for an adventure under the
guidance and protection of two young women was not what they had
imagined when signing on for the 80 kilometer paddle through one of New
Zealand’s newest river parks.
This immediate shock upon discovering that they are trusting their lives
and limbs to a ‘girl’ is something I have become used to when meeting
groups of clients for the first time. Working as a white water raft
guide in the United States I have seen the covert glances as the names
of guides are called out for each group of paddlers:
“The Taylor party, your guide will be Rich.”
“The McKenna party your guide will be Kevin.”
“The Kelly party, your guide will be Debbie.” You can almost hear the
collective gulp.
The men in the United States are rarely so blunt as to come right out
and ask me if I know what I’m doing, but they are not alone in their
concern. The women often share their uncertainty as to whether they can
put their faith in a female guide. It doesn’t take long before I’m
asked, “So... how long have you been doing this?” To which my standard
response is to look at my watch and reply “Oh, since about 8 this
morning” , hoping a bit of levity will calm people’s nerves.
Sometimes knowing that I’ve been guiding for 10 years helps allay fears,
in other cases it’s not until we have made it down the last rapid,
loaded the boats and are safely ensconced back on the bus (which I may
also drive, prompting someone to worry aloud about ‘women drivers’) that
my crew sighs with the relief of having survived not only the river, but
me.
Leadership styles vary from person to person. It is difficult and
perhaps dangerous to generalize the variations according to gender, but
the fact remains that men continue to be central figures of authority in
most of our lives. While many of us have strong female role models, the
heroes of young Americans are typically male sports figures and action
film stars. There are fewer ‘scripts’ for women assuming leadership
positions commonly held by men.
Fortunately my experience has been that it is not employers and
co-workers who are resistant to seeing women in leadership roles.
Quality tour and guiding companies know that good judgment, experience
and attitude play a greater role in hiring a leader then does gender.
Instead it is the clients, the men and women who arrive nervous and
excited to experience an adventure, whether it’s on a rock, in the
mountains or on a river, who have envisioned a strong, fearless leader
who does not have breasts.
I led my first trip for a group of women 19 years ago. Today I organize
and lead trips for women over 40. Along with being great fun, these
exclusive groups allow women the unique opportunity to see other women
in positions of power and control, to witness a group of women working
out problems and dealing with the host of challenges encountered on a
river trip or while traveling abroad.
By supporting each other and being open to seeing women in leadership
roles women help each other to succeed and achieve more than they
thought possible. As more and more women become visible in outdoor
recreation and leadership I suspect the day isn’t too far off when we’re
met with the exclamation “OH GREAT, A WOMAN!” As for the fellow on the
canoe trip in New Zealand; I had to rescue him and his canoe after he
flipped in the first rapid, but it wasn’t until I barbecued a perfect
medium rare steak that he was truly impressed. Go figure.
Debbie Jacobs, founder of Explorations in Travel, organizes outdoor &
cultural adventures for women over 40 and arranges individual volunteer
placements in Latin America and the South Pacific. She can be reached at
802-257-0152 and explore@sover.net.
You can visit Debbie's web site at http://www.exploretravel.com